1 Master the scarce skills and build a skill.
Some people say that there are two ways to make yourself irreplaceable: one is to do things that others can’t or don’t want to do; the other is to achieve top-notch things that everyone can do. In this era, anxiety is being sold everywhere, and everyone is in danger. Behind the anxiety is a guilty conscience and lack of self-confidence, as if one could become a substitute at any time. The best “iron rice bowl” of this era is your irreplaceability. Improving your ability, polishing your profession, possessing a skill, and mastering scarce skills are the best ways to combat anxiety.
2 Deal with emotions first, then deal with things.
When encountering things, deal with emotions first, and deal with things later. If emotions are not handled well, things will only get worse.
Venting emotions is a weapon for incompetent people. Really powerful people must be restrained and forbearing. It is instinct to have emotions, and it is ability to control emotions. Control your emotions when things happen, refuse to be emotional, stay calm and rational. A person can control his life only if he can control his emotions well.
3 Think independently, listen to only half of what others say.
I have heard a particularly heartbreaking sentence: Our independent thinking is neither independent nor thinking. In today’s society, the ways we receive information are fast and complex, full of good and bad, good and bad. French mathematician Pascal once said: Man is a reed that can think. Maintain the ability to think independently at all times. Don’t listen to what others say, and don’t let everyone know what they say. When everyone’s mind has an idea at the same time, it is clear that the idea is worthless. Really valuable ideas are often unique. When a person thinks independently and rejects external voices, it is when he is closest to his soul.
4 Insist on doing more things you don’t like but should do.
Laziness is human nature, and people are greedy for ease and comfort. But if you can get out of your comfort zone and bravely try what you are not good at, it is a kind of growth and transformation. Insist on doing more things you don’t like but should do, and if you keep doing it, you will have unexpected surprises. Only when you feel the pain will you have the motivation to change, and when the pain disappears, you will be completely new. In the final analysis, life is the process of unceasingly eliminating pain one by one, and then gradually becoming stronger.
5 If you have a clear goal in advance, then act.
Rather than hurrying on the road, the most important thing is to prepare sufficient rations and make a careful plan. No matter what you do at any time, you should first set your goals and work harder. Otherwise, in the end, it’s just a kind of “pseudo effort” that touches oneself but is in vain. For those with goals, no matter how slow they go, they are making progress; for those who are struggling and struggling, no matter how fast they go, it is futile. If a person has a clear goal, no matter how slowly he walks, he will definitely surpass others in the end.
6 No matter how lonely, you must learn to be alone.
Schopenhauer wrote in “The Wisdom of Life”: “Only when a person is alone can he be completely himself.” If you want to get rid of the mediocre life, you must learn to enjoy the time alone. Being alone allows you to truly walk into your heart and find the most primitive and true self. Being alone is a person’s practice, and it is also the best time for a person to add value. The better the person, the lonely.
7 Throw away the glass heart and practice the insensitivity.
Your future look is hidden in your present persistence, either persist or get out. Darkness is not terrible. The terrible thing is that when you encounter difficulties, the first thing you think of is not facing, but avoiding. In many cases, it is not difficulty that defeats us, but our sensitive and fragile glass heart. The best way for adults to heal themselves is nothing more than to throw away the glass heart and practice the insensitive power. Just as Watanabe Junichi said in the book “Insensitive Force”: Only by neglecting all kinds of unpleasant problems and being calm, can you live cheerfully and generously.
8 Reduce dependence and lower expectations.
Life is like an adversity, often through wind and rain. Entrusting the expectations of life to others is ultimately an unreliable thing. After all, a lot of roads have to be walked alone, unaccompanied, no matter how good the relationship is, there will be a day of passing. Don’t rely on others, even your shadow will leave you when darkness comes. At any time, please learn to hold your own umbrella, live as a team, and be your own support.
9 Long-termism, study for 1 hour a day.
Zhang Quanling said in his speech: “When the times abandon you, I won’t even say goodbye to you.” I don’t know how many people have been pricked in the soft heart, but it is not a naked truth. It is not easy for a person to be at the forefront of the times, but it is easy to be eliminated by the times. Stay alert at all times and develop the habit of lifelong learning. Set aside 1 hour a day to recharge yourself, learn new things constantly, and keep pace with the times. Even if you can’t do the tide-making in the torrent of the times, don’t be shot dead on the beach.
10 With hope in mind, a person in desperation is rebirth.
For people who want to be better, failure is just the beginning. Don’t be afraid to fail, and don’t be afraid to make decisions. Life is a process of trial and experience. Behind setbacks is a stronger self, and behind failures is a better self. The more things you experience, the better you will understand that every time you reach a desperate situation, you will often come back to life again. Those hurdles you thought you couldn’t get past, in the passing of time, after all, have become a fleeting mist. Falling down on the road of life, get up and move on, always reach the other side of success.
Self-improvement is never easy. The reason why many people find it difficult to change themselves is often because the expectations are too high and the reality gap is too great. You might as well start with one small thing, lower your expectations, do one thing well before doing another. May you persevere in your efforts, move forward throughout your life, live up to your expectations, and live a shining life