American psychologists have recruited 10 volunteers and asked them to participate in a psychological research activity called “Scar Experiment”. 10 volunteers were arranged in 10 rooms without any mirrors, and then they learned the specific method of the experiment: by applying fake makeup, each volunteer was turned into an ugly person with blood and scars on his face , and then go to the designated place to observe and feel how strangers react to you.
Psychologists hired professional Hollywood makeup artists to carefully smear realistic blood and nasty scars on each volunteer’s left face. The psychologists then used a small mirror to show each volunteer the “blood” and “scars” on their faces. When the volunteers wrote down their terrible “respect” in their hearts, the psychologist took away the small mirror.
Next, the psychologist told each volunteer to apply some more powder to make the blood and scars more realistic and long-lasting. In fact, the makeup artist did not apply any powder, but wiped away the blood and fake scars from the makeup with a damp cotton gauze. However, each volunteer still believes that there are disgusting blood and scars on their faces.
Unwitting volunteers were taken to waiting rooms at major hospitals, dressed as patients eagerly waiting for doctors to treat their faces. In the waiting room, people come and go, all strangers. Volunteers carefully observed people’s reactions to their faces.
After the experiment, the volunteers stated their feelings to the psychologists: People were very unkind to them. Volunteer A said: “The fat woman in the waiting room is the most annoying. As soon as she walked in the door, she looked at me with contempt!” Volunteer B said, “People are really lacking in sympathy now. There was a middle-aged man sitting with me. On the same sofa, he walked away without sitting for a while. Don’t I just have a scar on my face? As for avoiding me like the plague god?” Volunteer C said: “Among the strangers I met, I was particularly impressed by two young women. They dressed very well, like knowledgeable and cultivated white-collar workers. But I found that they both kept laughing at me in private. If it were two young men, I would definitely They beat them up!” The volunteers gushed endlessly, expressing indignantly their feelings of indignation. Their feelings were surprisingly consistent: a multitude of strangers who were deeply self-loathing, lacking in kindness, and staring rudely at their scars.
The results of the scar experiment surprised the well-prepared psychologists: the volunteers’ own erroneous and one-sided understanding has so profoundly affected and changed their perception of the outside world. We know that the volunteers’ faces are clean, without the slightest blood and scars. The reason for such a wrong feeling is that the volunteers keep “blood” and “scars” firmly in their hearts. It is precisely because the “blood” and “scars” in their hearts are frequently making troubles that the volunteers have made wrong judgments. This experiment validates the adage: “Others see you the way you see yourself.”
By extension, wrong self-perception can lead to wrong judgment. In each of our hearts, even if there is no “scar” on the face, more or less, light or heavy, there are often “scars” of one kind or another. For example, think that you are not cute enough, or even annoying; think that you are inferior and incompetent; think that you are not beautiful enough, and so on. These “scars” in our hearts also affect our perception.
This psychological experiment can tell us: what kind of world a person has, what kind of external vision he will feel. A calm person feels more peaceful vision; a person with low self-esteem feels more discriminatory vision; a kind person feels more friendly vision; a rebellious person feels more Most of them are critical eyes… In this world, only one’s own mentality can decide how others see you; only by changing your own mentality can you change your own world.
