My neighbor gave me two bags of octopus. Because I didn’t know how to deal with it, I left it in the freezer of the refrigerator for a long time without moving. One day I came across in the community again: “Have you done your octopus?”
”No! I will check what to do when I have time.”
” Making dumplings.”
”Ah…” The degree of difficulty increased. Last time, she gave me two mackerel fish, and made several phone calls, and it took a whole day to eat dumplings filled with mackerel.
This time it is octopus. Shandong people can make dumplings with all kinds of seafood. Only their locals know how to deal with authentic seafood and what kind of ingredients are the most delicious. Seeing that I hadn’t moved, she continued to worry, “If you don’t eat leeks, the season will be over. The octopus needs to be wrapped with leeks to be delicious.” Finally one day, she really couldn’t bear the ingredients lying for nothing in my refrigerator. Then, ran directly to my house.
An ordinary meat grinder doesn’t work, it needs to be specially made, so she brought it with her. Cut the viscera in your belly, don’t throw it away, scrambled eggs are the best delicacy. The eyes are going to be removed, do you know where the eyes are? Look, it’s here. Then she added some minced meat and leeks. Two hours later, she mixed the dumplings that met the requirements of her hometown and went home with peace of mind.
It’s been a long time since I had such an experience. From sending home ingredients, to running to other people’s kitchens and making hometown food, these behaviors are no longer common in today’s urban life.
We seem to live easily into islands. Don’t go out unless it’s necessary, you don’t see the people you can’t see, and you don’t say what you can’t say. Everyone is so busy, why waste this time? We don’t chat anymore. There is something to say, nothing to retract into his own world.
In one chat, the professor said that online social networking is increasing our excitement value, making us feel that offline social networking is becoming more and more boring. Think about it, you don’t have to move while sitting, all kinds of things rushing in front of you. What about offline? Who is active and who is passive? Will the other party reject me? Is the time all right? Is there anyone I don’t like to participate in? There are too many reasons to stop you. In the end, everyone didn’t go out at all.
Sociologist Xiang Biao said that young people should establish contact with the neighborhood, which is the community where you live. If you go out temporarily for a few days, who can take care of your pet? Who can keep the spare key at ease? These are increasingly testing our alienated and indifferent urban interpersonal relationships.
Your acquaintances are scattered in different urban areas. Everyone has to drive for an hour or two when they meet. Over time, everyone no longer has the enthusiasm for gatherings. It seems that the visible and invisible faces will never be seen. Everyone just disappeared, even if they lived in the same city.
The post-90s generations around me also have the same troubles. They are worried that living in an isolated island in the city, no one has dinner, no one plays scripts together, it seems that everyone is busy, either working overtime on business, or on the way to work overtime. As a result, more and more friends around me discussed how to buy a house and buy the same community. They are creating an ideal life scenario: your classmates are nearby, you just lift your foot and go, you don’t need to make an appointment when you come to my house, and I only need to knock on the door when I go to your house.
I had an appointment with my eldest daughter’s elementary school classmates not long ago. Everyone has a living radius of two kilometers, but no one proposes to get together. One day, a father took the initiative to propose a dinner together, and everyone’s enthusiasm seemed to have been ignited. The three children and three families were so excited that they responded immediately.
The daughter said, what are you tossing about? Online gathering is enough.
When I met, the three first-year students in three different middle schools exchanged ideas about the school’s wonderful teachers, annoying grades, and fun things about the club. It seemed that after six months of saving, they all poured out.
These words, they will never say online.