There are people in the world who have no real meaningful emotions in their inner world, have no empathy, cannot understand and sympathize with the feelings of others, and cannot understand the meaning of love and care. They have no self-control, and are used to expressing revenge, and their ability to experience emotions is in a state of inactivation. Even if they violated social norms and laws, they did not have the slightest self-blame or guilt. The mental health field refers to this pathological state of being unable to engage in emotional interaction and lacking conscience as “anti-social personality disorder.”
Why is there an “anti-social personality disorder”
The formation of antisocial personality may be related to innate factors, and their cerebral cortex function cannot perceive emotions such as happiness, pain, and fear. It may also be related to acquired factors, such as childhood trauma, poor family education and social environment. Most patients with “antisocial personality disorder” will show personality deviations in childhood, and the symptoms of adolescence are obviously exposed, and the symptoms continue to adulthood and tend to ease in later life.
Anti-social personality is a high-risk group. They are aggressive, retaliatory, easy to manipulate others, ruthless, and are a potential time bomb in society. Faced with anti-social personality, they can only use drugs or psychological counseling to intervene and treat, try to change the unreasonable beliefs behind their problem behaviors, and assist them in correcting their personality defects in a professional way, so that they can experience a reasonable way to alleviate the bad. Emotions, improve their sense of control over their own words and deeds, and guide them to learn to deal with things in a humanized way.
How to deal with “anti-social personality”
First of all, increasing vigilance, taking precautions, and tactful response are the unchanging tenet of self-protection. I have to say that there will be people with antisocial personality around us. In the process of interacting with others, more vigilance and more self-care are the prerequisites for protecting ourselves.
The second is to be able to identify. In the antisocial personality group, there are also many successful people in high positions, accomplishments, and exuding personal charm. The antisocial personality in them is invisible and difficult to detect. Therefore, we must improve our ability to recognize, be familiar with the characteristics of anti-social personality, have a pair of keen eyes, and always maintain an insightful heart.
For example, when someone challenges our bottom line and repeatedly uses our kindness and compassion to do something that makes us feel uncomfortable; or someone has repeatedly instigated discord and profited from the chaos; or deliberately creates problems for others to compete, But they themselves are hiding behind and silently controlling and waiting… Our “anti-magic” alarm will sound in time.
The third is tactful response. In the face of anti-social personality, we must first see their motives, weaknesses and habitual tactics, do not actively provide personal information, try not to reveal true emotions, and prevent manipulation. He is not superstitious in his words and deeds, and holds a calm and neutral attitude. You can try not to express your stance, if you have to express your stance, just “accompany” it.
The fourth is to hold the bottom line and eliminate the “broken window effect.” The most troublesome is the antisocial personality with close relationships, they are used to using the tolerance of their relatives to achieve their own goals. For example, the first time they betrayed, we will endure; the second time we hurt, we persuade ourselves to forgive, then we may have to face the third, fourth, or even countless times of betrayal and injury. This is the “broken window effect” in psychology. If we don’t fight back bravely for the first time, we will only allow the other party to attack without a lower limit.
The fifth is to take the best policy. If the other party is a relative, friend, etc., and we are experiencing embarrassment and physical and mental suffering, then we must decisively give up, protect ourselves, and leave entanglement and use.
The sixth is to seek professional help. It is difficult for us to deal with “anti-social personality” on our own. At this time, we must be good at seeking help from the social support system. When antisocial personalities have a negative impact on our psychology, we can obtain support from relatives and friends, or seek the help of psychologists in time, and rely on professionals to see the reality clearly and deal with difficulties. If they have violated the law, we need a lot of attention, keep factual evidence, and protect ourselves when seeking legal aid is critical.
Most things in the world are for good and beautiful, and will not affect our happiness index due to niche groups and low-probability vicious events. However, being vigilant and wise, preventing risks before they happen, can help our lives. A strong security guarantee.