Huaxing Pharmaceutical Factory

unnecessary character anxiety

  I was an intern in a large chemical factory. At the end of the internship, the workshop director made some comments and pointed out frankly: “Some students are relatively introverted. After entering the society, they may encounter many difficulties…” I know what he said The “individual classmate” should refer to me.
  It was the late 1980s, and most of the bestsellers in the society were speeches and eloquence, and the most popular saying among young people was “Character determines destiny”. The personality is divided into two categories by social experts: extroversion and introversion. “Experts” believe that the former is a positive and healthy personality, while the latter needs correction.
  After graduation in the summer of 1988, I joined a loss-making company. Since “character determines destiny”, if I want to change my destiny, I must first change my personality. People in the country know the saying “It’s easy to travel when you have many friends.” How to make more friends has become something I am always anxious about.
  In the second year after working, I decided to make some preparations for my future career change, so I went to a university adult college to study electrical automation. Most of the classmates in the class are from several central enterprises in the surrounding area. I intend to make friends with them, and I often put my hot face on my cold ass. Don’t say that I come from a loss-making company, and my income is much lower than theirs. Even if the city is a high-quality company, it is not in their eyes. “Oh, in the city!” This is the catchphrase of many of them, accompanied by a look of nostrils. Although they also have registered permanent residence in this city and are ordinary people, they always feel that their class is higher than mine.
  Fortunately, there are hundreds of people, all kinds of people, and there will always be some different people in the group. Erxi is an employee of a state-owned enterprise, and his father is still the director, but he and I get along very well. Over the years, we have become very good friends.
  Later, the factory stopped production, and I had to go to the talent market to find a job. I found that more than 80% of the jobs were related to sales. I didn’t dare to try it at first. After a long time, I was forced to have no choice but to apply for a company that sells PA cleaning products. After the 3-month probationary period, among the 10 newcomers, their performance ranked second and they successfully signed the employment contract.
  ”Introversion is not a disease. The elites in our sales industry may have a higher proportion of introversion.” I remember the vice president of that company once said to me. He believes that introverts are often sensitive and can be keenly aware of other people’s emotional changes. At the beginning of running a business, it may not be as smooth as an extrovert, but it is often possible to develop a customer and keep one. And it is more likely to sign a big order and win the trust of high-end customers.
  Later, I worked in sales for 89 years, and the situation was basically as the vice president said. Later, when I was in the circle of literary friends, I found that most of the authors who wrote about success studies and chicken soup articles did not have rich life experience. The so-called “introversion is a defect” may be all imagined by them.
  In a flash, now I am not far from retirement, and I have long since lost the idea of ​​changing my personality. Quite a few of my relatives are busy socializing on weekdays, and when they are old, they also have friends who can play mahjong with them, but when they encounter some troubles or have some unspeakable secrets, they want to talk to someone, but they find that they have no real friends. And I have three or four, not many, but they are all “aged” grade. We did not become friends for the sake of “easy travel”, and the common values ​​are the bond that connects our friendship.
  ”You are too honest and introverted. If you don’t change it, it will be difficult for you to work and fall in love in the future.” I heard a relative “educate” my little nephew that day. After he left, I said to my little nephew: “Don’t force me Change, just be yourself!”

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