Life, walk slowly to allow the flowers to bloom

Every day I take a walk in the playground of the nearby university – a brisk walk when running well. There are many exercisers here, from the elderly who are partially paralyzed and shivering but never stop, to the students who are young and fit, like a small tree.

One day I met a coach who was taking a group of kids who were preparing for the physical education entrance exam. A girl ran out first, ran a lap, timing 1:30, the coach was surprised: “So fast?”

Fast is not good? Is not the faster the better?

I walked through another lap, the girls had finished running, limp on the grass, panting into a ball, breathing so hard that they were close to vomiting out their hearts and livers, and the coach said, “4:02-running 400 meters is different from 800 meters.”

The students gathered, and the coach said, “If you run 400 meters, you just fire up and run and you’re done. Of course, higher level athletes will also be divided into levels, with different speeds for every 50 meters. But running 800 meters, you have to distribute your physical strength from the beginning. You have to take into account that your explosive power, lung capacity are limited, you run out of energy in the first lap, after that there is no use. So you must take it easy and keep your breathing even.”

A student asked, “Coach, is it the same for marathon running?”

The coach said, “What do you think, what do you need to run a marathon?”

The students would say the same thing: “Persistence.”

The coach was amused by them: “How can you finish the marathon if you are so tired just by running 800 meters? Do you still have the strength in your legs? Cardio function can keep up? Marathon is more about rhythm, more about the distribution of physical strength and energy. Not a ‘I must persevere to the end’ belief can be completed.”

A student said, “Yes, that’s what happened to me when I ran the 800 meters. My heart especially wants to run, but my legs just don’t have the strength.”

The students chattered, and I listened with great interest, almost wanting to interject, “In fact, learning, or life, is the same. Sometimes, it’s not all about persistence, much less fleeting enthusiasm, but rather a calmness, a rhythm, an even breathing.”

I’ve heard too many stories of children who have been playing leisurely through their adolescence, suddenly “waking up from sleep” in their senior year and realizing that there are so many unknown homework assignments, and the college entrance exams are imminent, so they gave themselves a very tight schedule, sleeping only four hours a day. It was easy to sleep less at night, but it was hard to stay awake during the day, so I pinched myself, twisted myself, cursed myself, and forced myself to be in full condition – I just played this internal drama in class and didn’t hear what the teacher said. More than ten days, less than a few days, collapse.

There is also another situation: when you are suddenly introduced to a new course, a new skill, whether it is learning ukulele or chemistry, you are like Ali Baba who suddenly enters a cave and can’t wait to scavenge all the treasures in a short time. In the car, on the pillow, on the toilet, thinking about it, practicing it, chanting it, thinking I could get it overnight, but strangely enough, gradually getting a little nauseous and not even wanting to look at it anymore.

Why is it so?

Because there is a saying: just can not be long.

The more unstoppable it comes up, the easier it is to use up all the energy and enthusiasm in the initial moments.

So, every time I say to the children: “Slow down a little, be patient, even if there is not much time, do not let the anxiety push you to stagger forward; even if it is really the love of your life, but also to slow down and allow the flowers to bloom.”

There are always moments in life when you need to fight, but how to fight? How to get well before the spell? How to make your speed and passion to supply your goal?

You will one day find: relaxed than competing for time is important, the land of success needs to use the most appropriate rhythm, steady arrival.