Fame and honor are like twins. Fame is eternal, fame is short. By fame I mean, of course, fame of the highest order, in the true sense. There are many kinds of fame, and some of them are fleeting. Honor is the quality that people must have in the same environment, fame corresponds to the quality that people cannot ask everyone to have. We may bestow honor upon ourselves, but depend upon others for fame; Honor at best makes us known, but fame makes us remembered forever; All men can achieve fame, but only a few can achieve it, for only those who have done extraordinary things deserve it.
Fame that endures is like an oak tree, it grows slowly but endures; Fame that is short, like a plant that grows in one year, Withers in time; False fame is like fungus, which grows up overnight and soon dies.
There is sorrow that cannot be shed tears. This sadness cannot be explained to anyone, and even if it were, it would not be understood. It never changes, like snowflakes on a windless night.
When I was younger, I tried to put it into words. However, no matter how to search for words, can not convey to others, even to themselves, so had to give up such efforts. So I shut up my language and my heart. Deep sorrow cannot even take the form of tears.
It is natural that people will love, just as it is natural that water flows downwards.
In order to live according to their own rules, bees have to fly, snakes have to climb, fish have to swim, and people have to love. Therefore, if a person does not love others, and treats others badly, his behavior is as strange as birds swimming in the water and fish flying in the air.
A horse must run fast on its own to get away from the enemy. His misfortune is not that he cannot crow like a cock, but that he has lost his instinct to run fast.
The dog’s greatest asset is its sense of smell, and when it loses it, misfortune befalls it, but if it cannot fly, so be it.
So it is with man. His misfortune is not that he cannot defeat a great bear, or a lion, or a fierce enemy, but that he has lost what is most precious — the nature of the soul and the power of love.
The poor thing is not that man should die, or that he should lose his money, that he should have no house, no property — none of this belongs to man. Sadly, people lose their true wealth and the highest happiness: the ability to love.
A Chinese philosopher was asked: “What is learning?” He said, “It is knowing people.”
People asked him, “What is benevolence?” “A lover,” he said.
A Dutch colleague and I were on a business trip to Japan not long ago. Along the way, he was overwhelmed by the frequent bows and apologies from conductors, convenience store clerks, restaurant waiters, taxi drivers and even co-clients.
On the way, we passed a warning sign for road construction, which showed bowing workers. A Japanese agent explained to us, “Seeing this bowing pattern, many foreigners may think it means bowing to say thank you, but it actually means apologizing, sorry for causing you inconvenience.”
My colleague said, half jokingly and half seriously, that in Holland, people would say thank you for your cooperation, and even write on the signboard, “For your future convenience, we are carrying out the necessary construction.” In this way, passers-by should thank the builders.
The next day, I happened to see an online photo of a construction sign that read in Dutch: “Road construction has changed the route. Three more minutes of cycling can burn 22 calories.” This explanation is so humorous that you can’t help but smile. The Dutch are good at detecting the needs of others to persuade them, and at thinking “what good can I do for others?”
It turns out that roadworks can also bring unexpected gains, as long as they are expressed in a different way. It is because they can realize their own value and are good at using persuasive communication skills that they can get forgiveness without saying sorry, let alone deliberately lowering their status.