In modern life, a considerable number of people unknowingly let others master and control, and involuntarily play the role of “psychological slave”. They are engaged in work they hate, living in an environment they don’t like, and doing things that go against their will. The following are the 5 types of “psychological slaves” and their prevention methods:
Slave to “what others think”
This kind of “psychological slave” is the most common, destructive to creativity and personality, and is common in people with immature psychological mechanisms. “If I talk more, others will think that I like to show up.” “If I do that, others will laugh at me”… This kind of “other” thinking makes it a slave to “others” thinking. Most of these “psychological slaves” will also listen to the advice of unqualified people, which will seriously affect their judgment.
[Countermeasures] 1. If you can feel happy after imitating others, you might as well try to imitate, otherwise you should live your own way. 2. Rationally face other people’s different opinions, criticisms and accusations, because the higher the position, the more chances of being regarded as the object of gossip and the more chances of being criticized. 3. Be friends with people who are bold, willing to help, and like-minded people.
“Doomed to fail” slave
This type of “psychological slave” lacks self-awareness, thinks that they are small and cannot really see themselves clearly. They often complain about “I don’t have a good chance”, “I will fail”, “People around me are against me” “Leaders don’t value me”… In fact, thinking can control the development of things, when a person wants what , He will really become like that.
[Countermeasures] 1. Frequently use good, positive, and constructive vocabulary to suggest oneself, it will enhance self-confidence. Usually try to think about “how it can be done” instead of revolving around “why can’t it be done”. 2. “I am going to succeed” and “I am a winner” are often in my mind. This will strengthen the belief in victory and try to find various ways to “help success”.
“It’s too late” slave
This kind of “psychological slave” usually believes that certain things should be done at a certain age. For example, some think that they have missed a good opportunity. It’s too big to go to university; some think they’re 40 years old and cannot remarry.
[Countermeasures] 1. Don’t pay attention to the age limit, and look for a living role model in life. 2. Don’t be stubborn, and work toward your ideals in a planned and step-by-step manner.
The slave of “security”
Many people would rather eat “big pot of rice” than reform. This is a typical “safety” slave. Lack of imagination is a common psychological feature of “safety” slaves.
[Countermeasures] 1. Make life rich and colorful. 2. Only when there is risk, there will be climbing, when there is difficulty, there will be breakthrough, when there is pressure, there will be rising, and when there is wind and waves, there will be fighting. So learn to face all kinds of difficulties and rare and unknown things.
Slave to “Past Errors”
The mind is controlled by the trauma of past failures. Fear of any new attempts is its main feature. Once bitten by a snake, for ten years, he is afraid of well ropes. They are discouraged by failure and do not know how to draw lessons from failure. Slaves of “past mistakes” will impair one’s ability to explore and make people hesitate to move forward.
[Countermeasures] 1. Regarding failure as an investment, it is not considered a loss. Some people say that Edison failed 9999 times in order to create the first practical light bulb, but he himself thinks that he has found 9999 methods that are not applicable. 2. If the error can be detected in time, it cannot be regarded as an error at all.
