They go to study in middle age

  I don’t know since when, when people in the workplace around me can’t do their jobs, talking about studying abroad may become a kind of outlet.
  So, is it a good option to study abroad after middle age or working for a few years?
  This is not an easy question to answer. “Risk” is the most worrying thing for many people. Middle-aged people have a lot of money and are under great pressure. It is inevitable that they are more afraid of failure than when they were young with nothing. So some people weighed it for many years, but never acted.
  How did those who have gone out take this step, and what problems will they encounter?
If I think so carefully, I can’t get out
@Jess, New Zealand

  Before going abroad, a friend asked me, “Have you really thought about it?”
  I said, “If I thought about it so well, I wouldn’t be able to go out.”
  A colleague, in his twenties, said he wanted to apply for a school. When I was in my thirties or forties, I didn’t start.
  Before going abroad, I was with the same company for eight years. Work overtime every day, 24 hours on call, often 24/7. When you are stressed and anxious, you have to go through a struggle to start your day.
  One day when I was 30, I suddenly felt like I wanted to live another life. I feel that I have been busy all these years and have not done a proud thing. I have been a very good child since I was a child. Every time I do something, I have to consider what others will think first.
  For example, I went on a trip when I was young. If my boyfriend said that a certain place was not good, I would not go there. I would listen to him.
  But if I choose again now, I will definitely listen to myself.
  Before I left, I worked as an associate director of accounts in a public relations firm. I was reminded of the risks of leaving the post at this time.
  But rather than worrying about losing, I worry more about whether I’m willing to endure if I keep climbing. A senior executive of the same company died suddenly at work. At the time of his death, only company key cards and credit cards were found on him.
  I can now spend my own money to study abroad and it should turn out to be a pleasure.
  Going to school with someone in their twenties doesn’t have the problem of not being able to keep up as they get older. There are several middle-aged people around me who got A grades.
  An older sister from Taiwan originally wanted to accompany her son in high school, but she didn’t want to waste time, so she went to study for a degree.
  A few months ago, I met a doctoral graduate, an 86-year-old lady.
  After coming here, I feel more like a real “learning” than in college. Because you know you’re learning for yourself.
  After returning to school as a student, I haven’t bought any clothes for about a year.
  In the past, when I was working, I felt that “I should buy, buy, buy” every time the pressure was too high. But now, I spend a lot of time exercising, going to the beach, or spending time with friends, and it’s a happy life.
After so much effort, can I get this degree?
@Sean, Alabama

  I came from Shanghai, and I often joke with my wife that my current life is to plant rice in the fields, and the mountains and rivers are so boring.
  In the first semester I came here, I really wanted to go back to China… It takes four years to study for a Ph.D., and I doubted whether I would be able to graduate—the coursework was hard, and I had to bring graduate students.
  In fact, if we don’t toss, my wife and I will live very comfortably in China. With a house and a car, there is basically no pressure. Some friends around me enjoy this kind of life very much: when people are middle-aged, it is good to be indifferent.
  But I have had the idea of ​​going abroad since I was 20 years old, and it was always put on hold for various reasons. Seeing that I am entering middle age, and there is a period of cessation in the middle, I want to say “forget it.” Just saw the head. So I started to want to study abroad again, and I wanted to rekindle the enthusiasm when I was young.
  It’s just that in reality, it’s not that hot here. Still, there is less anxiety than when I was at home. At least I found that with work experience, I find learning more fun than my younger classmates. In fact, if you work for a period of time and then go to study, you will have a clearer goal and know what you want.
Our family sacrificed to go abroad
@Anonymous, New York

  Looking back now, the original move was really a bit of a newborn calf who is not afraid of tigers. Two people, one baby, left everything in the country and came here, and I didn’t expect to stay for five years.
  When I was young, I always had the idea of ​​studying abroad, but I gave up because of various reasons. As a result, giving birth to a child suspended work and broke away from work, and the seed sprouted irresistibly.
  In the year I applied, I had to put my baby to sleep at night to read a book, and I held a desperate mentality: I tried it for the last time, and if it didn’t work, don’t think about it again.
  After coming to the United States, the hardest part was the first two years of school: the children were difficult to take care of, and they often got sick. Often the night before an important exam or interview, my son has a fever and vomiting in the middle of the night, so he can’t sleep all night, and he still goes to the exam the next day.
  The gains and losses and risks we take are great.
  When the offer was received, all the parents objected. It was my husband who jumped out to support me. He felt that the family must be together, so he resigned to study with him. In China, he has become a manager-level engineer, and here he has become a full-time dad. I originally wanted to go back after finishing my studies, but later I changed my plan and decided to settle down. But it’s hard for him to find a suitable job here. For me and for the whole family, he compromised and constantly adjusted his mentality.
  This pressure is also experienced by our family.
  We are much better now, we are in a calm period after the problem is solved. But I don’t know if it will start to get lost in five or ten years. One cannot simply evaluate whether the decision to study abroad is good or bad. I just feel that for such a huge change, once in my life is enough.
Returning to the workplace after studying abroad, what life in London taught me for a year
@李红秀, London – Shanghai

  I returned to China in September last year, and now I am back to work and have changed my profession. I wrote a public account for a few months when I first returned to China, but I found that the activity on WeChat was greatly reduced, and the SOHO lifestyle was not suitable for me, so I returned to the wave of job hunting and competed with young people.
  The overall economic environment is not very good, especially at my age, 42 years old, in the eyes of HR may be a middle-aged woman.
  Although I know myself that I’m in good shape in every way, even better than when I was in my twenties.
  If you look at it from a utilitarian point of view, the cost-effectiveness of my studying abroad is not high. People in their early 20s who have a degree in studying abroad will get extra points for their job search, but I am different. The major I studied in the UK is not directly related to my current job.

  To say what life in London has taught me this year is simply the ability to manage my life calmly no matter what the circumstances.
  For me, one of the driving forces of studying abroad is change. Looking back on this year in London, it was a rare year stolen from the “ordinary life”.
  The most important thing is that I finally have a lot of time alone with myself, and I can calmly think about some questions that I had no time to think about before, such as, have you really made the most of your life?
  I’m currently in the midst of a fresh sense of returning to the workplace after a long absence.
  And, once you take the first step to change, you become desensitized to being “uncertain.” Changing jobs is also part of desensitization.
  In the past, resignation was a “big thing”, you calculated the amazing sunk costs you had to give up when you left, worried about the gap, worried that it was too late…
  After resigning, suddenly, everything became clearer, and the work was no longer available. It can’t hold you back, it’s no longer a place where you grudgingly stay for that part of your paycheck or your sense of stability, it’s no longer a bargaining chip, it’s a new tool for you to explore the world.
  When I made the decision, I wanted to stop going to work continuously. I worked in the same field for more than 20 years, and I was exhausted.
  In fact, I want to use studying abroad to give myself a reason to leave the original industry. Otherwise, I feel that I may not have the courage to resign until now.
  So, even though I didn’t apply for my preferred major at the time, I took the flight to London without hesitation. Because my appeal is to go out to study as soon as possible.
  For this study abroad, I did not expect any utilitarian return, but you left your daily life and lived in another country for a year.
  The son said that he was very proud of me and thought that his mother was very brave. Although he will take the college entrance examination next year, he said that he would not consider studying abroad for the time being.

  Behind passion is triviality.
  @Jess from New Zealand, originally planned to immigrate, but now says that he is getting more and more homesick and wants to return home.
  @李红秀, who came back from London, initially applied with a romantic idea, but after going there, “I found out: the pressure is terrifying, beyond imagination.”
  @Sean in the United States, because he is worried that he will not be able to read the doctor in the end, he is still blocking the news of his going abroad to most of his friends.
  There are bright and dark sides to any choice.
  The important thing is to be able to embrace it bravely, so that you are not afraid of choice, not afraid of “uncertainty”.
  Wu Yonghui wrote in “Harvard Trivia”: “If it is said that young people’s minds are immature, then it is a compliment to describe an old man.” This sentence can also be given as a gift. Anyone who is concerned about gains and losses.
  If you’re hesitating about a possibility right now, here’s a quote from Danbisa Moyo: “As long as you’re interested, it’s never too late; the best time to plant a tree is ten years. Before, followed by now.”