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Escaping Loneliness in a Digital World: Put Down Your Phone and Live in the Moment

  In Chinese cities, whether you are in a restaurant, cafe or train station, if you look around, you will always see this scene: almost everyone is busy playing with their mobile phones, taking selfies, or playing games, and more often than not, everyone is busy playing with their mobile phones, taking selfies, or playing games. Boredly scrolling through news feeds and commenting on Moments.
  This scene not only exists in China, but is also a global phenomenon.
  On the one hand, high technology and social networks have made our lives more efficient, making things more convenient, communicating more timely, and understanding the outside world easier; on the other hand, we seem to have lost our happiness and become more lonely.
  This reminds me of something Swiss psychologist Carl Jung once said: “Loneliness is not the absence of people around you, but your inability to tell others about the really important things in life.”
  This was made decades ago. The conclusion is surprisingly applicable to today’s social network era – you may have thousands of friends in your WeChat address book, tens of thousands of fans on Weibo, countless followers on the live broadcast platform, and you are busy from morning to night every day It goes on and on, but I don’t feel warm or
  happy.
  The underlying reason is that the “virtual world” in which we are deeply integrated will limit the quality and depth of our communication. The latter is the real source of happiness.
  A well-known psychological study tells us that on average, 50% of happiness is related to genetic genes, 10% is related to the external environment, and the remaining 40% depends on the choices we make.
  On the one hand, high technology and social networks have given us a richer choice of things, such as searching for information, listening to music, watching videos, and getting in touch with the people we want to contact at any time (and everything can be done in a very short time) On the other hand, it creates a “temptation of choice” for us, making us unable to help but stop what we should be focusing on. I can’t help but get caught up in social networks and procrastinate as soon as I pick up my phone.
  Many of us, before going to bed, may not be reading a book quietly or chatting with our partners. Instead, we are holding our mobile phones and checking Moments, curiously caring about what others have shared: where we went to play, and Who stayed together and what did they do? Then subconsciously compare yourself.
  You think to yourself, “How come other people can vacation on a beautiful island while I’m lying alone at home with my phone? Life sucks. It’s so unfair.”
  This is where we go wrong. We allow social media to steal our attention from our present lives, thereby amplifying feelings of loneliness and losing happiness in unnecessary comparisons.
  Therefore, I would like to suggest that Chinese people can try to put down their mobile phones for at least three periods of time?
  First, after waking up in the morning and before falling asleep at night. Give yourself at least 30 minutes to step away from your phone and focus on relaxing and falling asleep.
  In addition, when you are with family and friends, please put down your mobile phone and forget about Moments. Because of them in front of me. He is the person you should pay attention to most in this world.

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