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Beyond the Blues: Unlocking Your Identity and Conquering Negative Emotions

Everyone has a lot of troubles, and some people are in a state of depression all the time and can’t find the meaning of life. Some people are anxious all day long and worry about trivial matters. Some people are always cautious, for fear that others will blame them. Some people can’t handle interpersonal relationships well, resulting in no friends around them.
There are many reasons for this, but all of these things make the individual feel a boundless negative emotion.
Many people actually have some psychological disorders, but they don’t show it often, or the way they show it is more hidden, and they don’t even notice it.
They are reluctant to seek counseling, believing that they do not have mental illness.
In fact, it is not only people with mental disorders who can go to the doctor, if you feel that your inner state has been in a negative state for a period of time, but you are unable to do anything, then you can go to psychological counseling.
All kinds of psychological disorders have one thing in common, and that is the ego.

What is Ego?
When we are teenagers, we often introspect on:
What kind of person am I?
What are my characteristics?
What do people say about me?
This phenomenon can often be seen in the notebooks and diaries of teenagers.
Adolescence is the second leap in the development of self-awareness, in which self-awareness does not develop properly if something bad is experienced or a bad education is received.
Therefore, the anxiety, nervousness, depression and other characteristics that appear in adulthood are largely the result of the lack of healthy development of self-consciousness in adolescence.

Self-consciousness contains self-concept, which refers to a person’s awareness of one’s own continuity and identity, which includes the cognitive component, the emotional component, and the character component.
If a person’s self-concept is well developed, first of all, he will describe himself in abstract words, and not in fragmented, concrete words.
Second, people describe themselves more comprehensively, integrating even elements that contradict themselves into a logical and coherent unity.
Finally, people will no longer describe themselves in general terms as they did when they were children, but will describe their characteristics in different situations according to different situations, such as school, family, etc.
Therefore, the cause of the various psychological problems that manifest itself in adulthood may be the failure of self-concept to develop benignly.
This type of person is usually very confused about himself, unable to match his attitude to his behavior, or thinks that he is a split-personality person, and shows different psychology and behavior at different times and in different situations.

Self-awareness includes self-evaluation, which is a manifestation of self-awareness related to the development of an individual’s cognitive ability.
This is a complex psychology and behavior that contains the knowledge of social norms of behavior and subjective experience, specifically referring to the individual’s evaluation of his own thoughts, abilities, and levels.
Therefore, psychological disorders may be due to the lack of correct self-evaluation in adolescence.
Some people’s evaluation of themselves is still in the elementary school stage, and they always evaluate themselves according to what others think of them, and they lack introspection.
They don’t like to think, they rarely integrate their own characteristics, their lives are always outward-oriented, and they rarely experience their inner emotions, so their self-evaluation is often inaccurate and naïve.
Self-identity
Erikson developed the concept of self-identity:
Self-identity is the individual’s sense of self-integration and adaptation in a specific environment, and the individual’s ability to seek internal consistency and continuity.
It is the subjective feeling and awareness of “who I am”, “where I will develop in the future”, “how do I adapt to society”, etc.

Marcia divides self-identity into four states:
1. Identity diffusion, which means that the individual is neither exploring nor self-investing
2. Early closure of identity refers to the fact that the individual has not explored, but has made self-commitment
3. Delayed identity refers to the fact that adolescents are in the midst of an identity crisis
4. Identity completion refers to the individual’s exploration and self-investment
For people with mental disorders, their bad mood may be caused by being in the process of being
They are just beginning to think about their own development, what they really want, and at the same time they are troubled by unpleasant things in the outside world, and they are experiencing both internal and external blows.

However, everyone experiences a delay in identity, which puts people in crisis, but at the same time gives them hope.
As long as the individual persistently answers the questions about the self, as long as the individual is not afraid of the threats of the outside world and faces them calmly, then once the period is over, people will become stronger, and when the time comes, we will be able to cope with all the difficulties in life with ease.

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