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Beyond Butterflies: Love, Responsibility, and the Flavorful Journey of Marriage

  American marriage expert Gary Chapman pointed out in “The Five Love Languages” that if couples want to stay together for a long time, they must communicate more.
  What is the most important thing in marriage? There is no single answer. I think there are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand readers. But in my opinion, it is love and more importantly responsibility.
  Young love is an adventure full of mysteries and unknowns. Two moving hearts are a train ticket to surprises, excitement, and freshness.
  After entering marriage, the mystery will gradually disappear, and love is no longer just about two people. It has since been separated and has become another part of life – responsibility, which also makes people mistakenly think that love is missing. So some wives complain that their husbands don’t love them as much as they used to, and even give indirect reminders on some important holidays. At this time, even if the husband follows the instructions, it seems to be perfunctory, and he can’t defend his behavior. There are far more things that affect the relationship between two people, such as the loss of freshness, the exposure of each other’s shortcomings, and not being understood… Those initially strong and exciting desires and expectations will gradually fade away with the journey of time and the torrent of life. People are more concerned about the few taels of silver in their wallets, they are more busy with the daily necessities of life, and they are more tired of filial piety and health care on their shoulders, but they lack the sense of rituals that are both familiar and devoid of freshness.
  Of course we cannot say that this is the wife’s pretentiousness or the husband’s negligence. A smart wife will be more considerate to her husband, and a thoughtful husband will be more considerate and caring towards his wife. Only love that goes both ways can there be love that will not be let down.
  The ultimate goal of love is marriage. Love is the foundation of marriage. It starts with love and must end with love.
  The premise of marriage is cognition. When boarding the long-distance train of marriage, we must know that in addition to the strong and stimulating desire and expectation, it will be mixed with too many things like beer, liquor, mineral water, peanuts and melon seeds along the way. The intersection of instant noodles”. The train journey of love and marriage is the process of understanding life.
  Sanmao once said: “Whether it’s white snow or tofu and vegetables, we have to taste it to make this life worthwhile.” So even though she knew that the life she was about to face was a mixture of flavors, she had no hesitation. He rushed to the Sahara Desert and cultivated an oasis of marriage with Jose through their mutual love. Goethe once said: “Responsibility is having a love for what you ask to do.” Sanmao used his sense of responsibility for love with a grain of sand every day to compose the poetry and distance of “The Story of the Sahara”.
  But the freshness of love has a shelf life, especially the love that enters marriage. It is also our responsibility to color and season it in a timely manner and maintain a good relationship between husband and wife.
  There is a line in the movie “In the Mood for Love”: “I never thought that marriage was so complicated. I thought it was enough for one person to do well, but when two people are together, it is not enough for them to do well.” So even if Love has been divided into multiple parts. We must allocate our time and energy reasonably, manage it carefully, have more understanding and companionship, and have more respect and care, so that love can be felt and not neglected or diluted.
  There is a sentence in “The Biography of Yang Jiang”: “When passion fades, marriage has just begun. The essence of marriage is companionship and responsibility. Mature love relies on conscience, and the second half of life depends entirely on responsibility.”

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