In modern society, the connections between people are not very close, and some people even choose to cut off ties with the people around them and live their own lives.
These people are very lucky. Most of them become better and better in loneliness. They have significantly improved in many aspects such as stress resistance, innovation ability and maturity, and even have some success in their careers.
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Why do this type of people succeed? We will analyze it from the following four aspects.
First, cutting off ties with those around you will affect your interpersonal relationships, but it will allow you to focus more on things you think are important.
There are two types of relationships between people: making and breaking friendships. Breaking off friendships is one of the more extreme forms of interpersonal relationships.
People are social beings. When we are born, we are connected with our parents; during childhood, we will meet with relatives during the Chinese New Year; when we go to school, we make new good friends; when we join the job, we meet with our superiors. and colleagues.
It can be seen that people will continue to improve their interpersonal relationships at different stages of life. We know that a person breaks off relations with relatives and friends.
Interpersonal relationships will naturally be affected to a certain extent, and this influence can be divided into two types: passive choice and active choice, depending on whether the subject exerts initiative.
A person with a withdrawn personality often does not choose his friends, but others choose him. He cannot take the initiative and can only accept passive choices.
Studies have shown that a person’s interpersonal performance also depends on his personality traits. Those who give people a sense of isolation do not perform satisfactorily in interpersonal communication. However, these people also have advantages, such as They usually think more deeply and comprehensively than others.
Therefore, when we consider the reasons behind a person’s difficulty in integrating into society, we must first consider his personality traits, not others.
As for people who actively choose to break off social relationships, they may have had many friends, colleagues, and other social relationships, but they actively distanced themselves and avoided contact.
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Although the former seem to be more “pathetic” and need more attention from others, we should not fall into misunderstandings. Their psychology is similar to that of those who actively choose to break off friendship: they want to focus more on things they think are important.
Some of them are also glad that others do not associate with them, because these people are not willing to socialize and would rather spend time on themselves or elsewhere. It is precisely because of this that they have achieved success.
Second, although cutting off friendship with those around you can cause a lot of negative emotions, it can help improve your self-awareness. How a person knows himself determines how he knows the world.
Only by seeing yourself clearly can you build a good and correct worldview.
When interacting with others, feeling “speechless” due to “inconsistent views” is an emotion that many people have experienced. This just shows that the outlook on life, values, and world view will also affect our interactions with others.
The three outlooks are different, so the pursuits are different. Some people pursue a sense of identity and connection; but some people do not care about the connection between people. What they value is individual independence, the progress of thought and the expansion of vision.
Therefore, a person who has no friends cannot prove anything. Although people will subconsciously make negative comments about them, they don’t care at all. They focus on improving their self-awareness and pay great attention to their inner world.
This type of people value their inner feelings and self-improvement, and rely on themselves to understand the world, rather than relying on other people’s mouths to understand the world. Therefore, their understanding of the world will be deeper than others.
Third, although cutting off friendship with those around you risks a lack of emotional expression or incoordination, it will make it easier to succeed in your career.
People who seek within themselves are never confused
Emotional expression is a way of interaction. Through emotional expression, you can understand a person’s thoughts and feelings, and you can also understand a person’s popularity.
However, many people in society are not good at expressing emotions. Even if they have something to deal with, they will digest it internally and rarely speak out. It is not that these people are unsociable, but they feel that there is no need to attract attention, and they are not willing to expose their emotions to others. In front of people with bad intentions.
Although there is a problem of incoordination in emotional expression when cutting off friendship with people around them, they are often more likely to achieve career success because they consider things more carefully and express more implicitly.
Fourth, although severing ties with those around you will face negative evaluation from all walks of life, you may also develop the skill of “absorbing negative feedback.”
This skill is exactly one of the skills necessary for successful people. Just like turning pressure into motivation, successful people turn negative feedback into counter-motivation and continuously push toward their goals.
To sum up, the phenomenon of cutting off ties with those around you is not uncommon in contemporary society, and people have different opinions about it.
Although this behavior is biased, it is undeniable that cutting off ties with those around you also has certain benefits, such as focusing on oneself, understanding oneself, motivating oneself, achieving oneself, etc.