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The Subtle Yet Drastic Difference Between Ideals and Desires

Ideal saw the smile of Mona Lisa, Desire just stared at the corner of Mona Lisa’s mouth.

Before I started working, I was surrounded by people of the same age. I used to think that ideal and desire were synonymous, but one looked beautiful, and the other seemed like a derogatory term. There was a popular joke at that time – one day the father asked the child: “What do you want when you grow up?” The child replied: “I want beauty and money!” The father hit the child’s head severely. The child quickly changed his words: “Then I want career and love!” The father touched the child’s head lovingly.

After working, I met all kinds of people, and I gradually felt the difference between desire and ideal. But there are still many people who think the same way as I did when I was young. I talked about desires and ideals with a friend who has been a high school class teacher for a long time. He changed his serious appearance as a teacher in class and said firmly: “I think desire is ideal, a thing. It’s just two ways of expression, the driving force of the two is the same, but one can be made public, and the other is the evil smile when alone or when communicating with close friends. For example, I tell the students in class that I am My ideal is to send them all to prestigious universities, and the voice in my heart is that if they pass the exam, I will be rewarded with a lot of money and become famous all at once.” I smiled, “That’s just because you are a good person.”

Yes, the so-called good people are people who are willing to be restrained by morality from the bottom of their hearts, and who are content to be regulated by laws in their external behavior. They are people with high realms. For most good people, desire can always be restrained within a reasonable range, smoothed by inner norms into a source of positive energy, like a rushing river, with mud and sand sinking to the bottom, a clear pool illuminated by sunlight Looking up, the golden light is shining, very ideal, and even the same.

However, not all good people are in the world. In “The Deer and Ding Tale” written by Mr. Jin Yong, Chen Jinnan, the chief rudder of the Tiandihui, raised the ideal banner of “anti-Qing and restoring the Ming Dynasty”, with awe-inspiring righteousness. The desire of Wei Xiaobao, the incense master of Qingmutang, is “we want to take back the women and gold and silver taken away by the Qing soldiers”, so he acts indecently, even viciously. It seems that Chen and Wei’s desire to reach the same goal by different routes has expressed a completely different form. In the Journey to the West group of four, Tang Seng represents ideals, and Zhu Bajie represents desires, so one sticks forward, and the other is about to disband at every turn.

Of course, the difference between ideals and desires is not only that.

A lawyer friend gave a law popularization lecture titled “Almost all ways to make a lot of money are written in the “Criminal Law””. I, a law graduate, feel the same way. Confucius said that people’s great desires are nothing more than food and drink, but at the moment when money worship is rampant, it seems that people’s great desires can be attributed to making a lot of money. The heart is unwilling to be imprisoned by morality. For those who are lucky to be restricted by the law, they are driven by desire, take risks, rent out power with power, smuggle and sell drugs with courage, extort with black hearts, petty theft with quick legs… the higher the risk , the greater the income, don’t stretch out your hand, you will be caught if you stretch out your hand. One day, you will be imprisoned, and the desire to expand becomes the desire to survive for a few more days or the desire for freedom to eat a few years less in prison.

At this time, can it still be said that ideals and desires are different expressions of the same thing? Ideal saw the smile of Mona Lisa, Desire just stared at the corner of Mona Lisa’s mouth.

People with high realms and children with pure hearts generally have ideals. Ideals are the most (the highest level) of desire. I would like to understand this word as a kind of superlative. For people with ideals, most of their dreams are subjectively beneficial to others, but objectively they may be self-interested. And desire, both subjective and objective, is self-interested. People with low realms and people in their twilight years mostly only have desires, and desires are the lower level of ideals. The difference lies in the size of the structure, and what is lost may be only a kind of moral bondage. Said that most old people have no ideals, but are cruel but true. Wang Xiaobo said: “Life is a process of being hammered slowly. People grow old day by day, and their extravagant hopes disappear day by day, and finally become like a bull that has been hammered.”

Boredom sees hesitation, and it is not easy to achieve the ideal. We are all bound to grow old. In the years when our ideals are still there, we should restrain our desires, or strive to improve the realm of our desires, and seize the time to pursue our ideals.

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