Don’t let your loved ones be your netizens

　　My friend’s child went to study abroad. For various reasons, he went there for three years and never came back. Of course, friends, couples, and children are in contact every day-via mobile phones, or text messages, or voice calls, or video chats. From the video, they can see the change of the child: he is taller and thinner.
　　Although the Internet is strong and the video is clear, as in front of you, it is ultimately very different from face-to-face. Sometimes, my mother wanted to touch her son’s face, but she could only touch the cold cell phone screen. What happened to the son? Dad hoped to give him a big hug or pat his shoulder to transmit his support and strength to him, but he couldn’t do it. Suddenly, the son was very homesick, and the couple held their mobile phones and scanned the corners of the house to comfort the son’s homesickness, which was thousands of miles away.
　　Because of the time difference, in many cases, it is also the time for the couple to eat when they video with their children. They put the mobile phone in the position where the son was sitting when he was at home, and pointed the camera at the food on the table. The son was greedy and wanted to taste the food his mother made, but he could only look at the food through the screen.
　　My friend joked that we and our children are about to become netizens.
　　For parents, becoming a netizen with their children is probably the most pungent word.
　　In the past, communication was inconvenient and expensive. When children were away, they could only contact them by letter or phone. Now it is much more convenient and faster. Through online video, everything is just like right now. It seems that there is no longer any distance or barrier. actually not. No matter how clear the video is, no matter how long the chat is, it is difficult to make up for the shortcomings of being away from you.
　　One of my fellow villagers worked alone in this city. His wife, children and elderly parents all stayed in the countryside of his hometown. He also communicates with them through his cell phone every day. Parents do not know how to use mobile phones, and are reluctant to talk to him on video. Basically, their concerns and greetings are conveyed through their wives. He is most worried about his sons and daughters. When his daughter is in elementary school, every time she sees him on her mobile phone, she is very affectionate and excited. The son is different. His son is in high school and he is under a lot of pressure to study. He has reached the age of rebellion. He doesn’t know if he is unwilling to waste time or is reluctant to talk to him at all. Often his mother just handed him the phone, he um After a second sound, it was chopped off. When my son was young, he used to be like his sister. He waited for him to call or send videos every day. When his son was in high school, he hoped that he would go back and stay with him for a period of time. Without touching the ground, he finally broke his promise and failed to go back to accompany his son. He hurried back only on the day of his son’s high school entrance examination. The son failed the exam and vented his grievances on him.
　　He once talked to me. He thought that talking with their mother and son on the phone or video chat every day was to care about and accompany them. Only now did he realize that his role as a father is still missing in the process of his child’s growth. Phone calls or videos are not a substitute for being close by.
　　The experience of these two friends made me think about one thing, what is companionship? In the process of children’s growth, the company of parents is the best gift; in the process of aging parents, the company of children is the greatest filial piety. Daily phone calls or videos can also express concern and greetings, and can also warm family affection, but it can never replace companionship. Only by the side, you can pat his shoulders and hold his hand when he is depressed, and give him confidence and strength; only by the side, you can pass him when his parents are thirsty A glass of warm water; only accompanied by your side, even if you don’t say anything or do anything, you also have your own aura and power to transmit to them, make them feel at ease, and give them comfort.
　　Whether it is to our parents or to our children, don’t appear and disappear like a netizen. It seems to be intimate, but in fact it is far away without a trace. What is a loved one? A loved one can hold your hand by reaching out when he needs it; opening his arms can hold you in his arms.
　　You are by your side, you can give it all.