Regret A and Regret B

A friend is doing Internet operations in a state-owned enterprise, and it is very boring. This state-owned enterprise does not pay much attention to the Internet.

He submitted his resume to several Internet companies, but he did not expect that one of them passed the interview, and it was still a well-known Internet company in the industry, with a B round of financing. If he goes, he will do content operations, mainly in charge of copywriting, and his income is similar to that of a state-owned enterprise. The state-owned enterprise he works for recently also wants to make efforts in Internet operations, and his project has received attention. Should you stay in this state-owned enterprise or go to that private enterprise? He must make a choice within a week.

If the private company is a company like Xiaomi and Didi, he is willing to go without hesitation. If the boss of the state-owned enterprise has always been the person he admires (the boss was changed 3 months ago), he will stay steadfast in the state-owned enterprise. However, none of these exist.

When he called me, it was the last day of the admission notice from that private company. He had to make a choice and hoped that I would give me a suggestion.

I didn’t have time to understand the specific situation of the two companies. In the end, due to time constraints, I said that I would ask him a question, repeat it three times, and ask him to carefully understand: “If these two options pass two or three years later, you I regretted the separation, what would it be like? Which regret do you think is more bearable?”

In the evening, he made a decision.

This problem is a strong medicine in the face of entanglement.

Some people are entangled whether to stay in the big city and work hard, or go home and live a peaceful life. At this time, it is better to think about the regret of every option in two or three years.

A has worked hard in a big city for two years, his career development has been slow, his income has not gone up, his rent has risen again, and his target has not been determined. I regret it: How stable I was when I went home, and I can still eat my mother’s meal every day, alas!

B is home for two years, settled to emptiness, there is almost no career development in the whole small city, and daily life is extremely monotonous. I regret it: If I had been in a big city, I would at least see the world, and I would feel a sense of growth if I couldn’t make any achievements.

Then compare them to see which regret is better. This comparison between regret A and regret B allows people to make decisions quickly.

Someone may ask, why not compare the bright future?

The first reason is that people have two ideas for future decision-making. One is “vision-oriented”, which is to have a very good vision for the future. For this vision, no matter how hard you are, you have to choose. “Vision-oriented” people are often “silly and bold”, so they choose. Those who are entangled are “regret-oriented” people, afraid of choosing the wrong one. The second reason is that good A and good B are often difficult to compare.

A fast-growing Internet executive is more successful than a fast-growing investment manager? It is too difficult to compare, but regret A and regret B can be compared. An Internet executive who failed to start a business would regret it more than a frustrated investment manager? Everyone has their own reasons and opinions. Once you talk about it, you can definitely think about this problem clearly.