Can be “easy-going”, not stubborn

  At a party outside, an acquaintance introduced me to a stranger. He first told me the name, identity, and publication of his work, and then added: “This buddy is very easy-going, and everything is easy to discuss.” I smiled and said “two good”, but I couldn’t help feeling a little disapproving in my heart.
  People should be easy-going, this is no problem. How to interpret the word “easy-going”, I did not specifically go through the dictionary. In my understanding, it should mean kindness and not stubbornness. For example, if a friend invites you to dinner, your position is similar to that of another person. The host arranges that person as the guest of honor, but arranges you as the second guest. If you don’t take it seriously, others will think that you are polite and easy-going; if If you have to be more real, if you are not the guest of honor, this meal will taste like chewing wax. Another example is that you are very famous and follow a group of people to collect the scenery. It is a lonely self-admiration, showing everyone an expression that I am a cow and everyone must surround me, or whether you are too young or old to play with everyone and have fun , So that people can not see the difference of fame? I think it should be the latter.
  However, if we understand people’s easygoing as “anything is easy to discuss”, we are very wrong. Cai Yuanpei loves education and cares about students very much. He has helped many people. Everyone thinks he is very easy going. In the autumn of 1930, a certain provincial government of the KMT was reorganized. A Peking University student asked Mr. Cai to recommend him to Chiang Kai-shek, and asked his old classmates to call Mr. Cai to make it. Cai Yuanpei quickly called back, with only one sentence: “I will not grow up to be the flame of the nation.” The reason is simple: Cai Yuanpei hates the tugging in the officialdom and violates his conscience, so he resolutely refuses to do it.
  Zeng Guofan is also a person with persistence in his heart. His relationship with Li Yuandu (zi Ciqing) was originally very good. Li Yuandu met Zeng Guofan in the capital, and often asked Zeng Guofan for useful poems to form a teacher-student relationship. In the twelfth lunar month of the third year of Xianfeng (1853), Li Yuandu resigned from the official position of Chenzhou Prefecture and returned to his hometown of Pingjiang. He recruited 500 courageous folks. After a little training, he led them to Zeng’s camp in Hengyang. Zeng Guofan once wrote to Li Yuandu’s mother and said: “The second youth is my, and the friendship is strong and unswerving. The defeat of Yuezhou, Xingchi will come. The frustration of Jinggang is scattered from everyone, and the next youth will follow the lower body and stay on the side. When you go out, you will whimper and be angry, and when you come in, you will feel comforted.” Later, when Huizhou fell, Zeng Guofan did not hesitate to participate in the court to impeach Li Yuandu, who was the master general, without leaving any room. Zeng Guofan later explained in a letter to his fellow township Peng Lisheng: “The second youth guards the emblem, and the city escapes before it is broken; after defeat, he does not quickly return to the camp to support the dangerous situation, but wandering in Zhejiang and Jiangxi. , The menstrual month did not return; when he returned to the camp, he could not wait for the crime, and went back to his hometown by himself; this spring, he went to Zhejiang without a letter for business. On his independence, Fuzhou was defeated in previous years, and Huizhou last year. In terms of the relationship, the Bank of China treats the people of China, and the wise man treats the commander of Zhejiang, but also abandons the friendship. Public and private are separated, and there is no chance to reunite.” Zeng Guofan and Li Yuandu once In terms of intimacy theory, if the latter is only for not showing enough respect for Zeng Guofan, he can forgive him, thus embodying “easy-going”. It’s not a trivial problem to go back to the big camp quickly and support the crisis together.
  It is very important to distinguish what can be “easy-going” and what cannot be “easy-going”. Things in the world are roughly divided into two types. One is only related to personal face or a little interest. For such things, our “easy-going” is magnanimity; the other is related to black and white right and wrong, public order and good customs. , Our so-called “easy-going” has become superfluous. The purpose of Cai Yuanpei and Zeng Guofan’s insistence on the issue of principle is to avoid stubbornness.
  One has to persevere to know right and wrong. China is traditionally a society of personal sentiments. There is not too much pressure from public opinion to be cynics and local wishes. But if you want to be truthful, talk about right and wrong, and deal with people who make mistakes according to rules, you will get strange discussions. Without much faith, no care for the rules, and no determination of “I will not go to hell, who will go to hell”, it is difficult to carry out the original intention.
  Huangshan pine on the cliff will not “discuss everything”, because of its unremitting adherence to certain rules, it has become a peerless scenery.

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