Wait for the one who is slower than yourself

“It’s not a long-term solution for us to separate the two places for a long time. Or we should live our own way!”

Knowing that the garage I just bought was my own money, and didn’t let my husband Feng Kai pay a cent, my girlfriend Wang Yu quipped: “You are also a female man! I’m right? My sisters don’t want a husband. You can have a good time by yourself.” She said, she turned on the phone to show me a photo: “Look at me at that time, how can I be in good condition now!” That was a photo of her before the divorce. Obviously not as good as it is now.

Wang Yu and I were the same age. Six months ago, he divorced his husband, who was “not a good weapon”. This time, I went back from the provincial capital to the county seat to handle the purchase of a garage, and invited her to meet and reminisce about the past.

Seeing that I didn’t respond, Wang Yu looked at me for a while and suddenly said, “Ye Xin, sisters tell you the truth, if I’m like you, I’ll be alone. I will go back to the county to open a yoga studio and do business. Do it prosperously. Your three-bedroom and one-living house happens to be the venue.”

After bidding farewell to Wang Yu, I returned to my empty home alone. Standing in front of the vanity mirror, I couldn’t help but say to myself in the mirror: “Ye Xin, it turns out that you can repay the mortgage and buy a garage with your own strength. Just like Wang Yu said, you can live your own life without a husband. “So, what is the point of a marriage full of quarrels between me and Feng Kai?

Thinking about this, I couldn’t help but sent a WeChat message to Feng Kai, who was far away in Beijing: “It’s not a long-term solution for us to live in two places for a long time. Or we should go on separate ways!” Feng Kai did not reply after sending WeChat for ten minutes. .

I sent another one: “I have already bought the garage. The house belongs to me. I will return the 60,000 yuan that your family gave you back.”

After I finished washing, I lay in bed and waited for a while, but Feng Kai still did not reply. With disappointment and sadness, I fell asleep.

When I woke up in the morning, I saw Feng Kai’s reply on the phone at more than 1 am: “Wife, are you kidding me!”

Feng Kai and I met through introduction. At that time, he was a pastry chef in a western restaurant in the county, and I was a clothing shopping guide in a shopping mall. Due to poor family background, we chose naked marriage. After the marriage, Feng Kai resigned and went to Zhengzhou, the provincial city of Zhengzhou, and opened a Western-style pastry shop in partnership with his friends due to the poor business in the western restaurant. I also resigned and followed him to Zhengzhou. Soon, I was introduced to yoga by a fellow villager. I quickly fell in love with the sport and practiced it well. For this reason, I enrolled in a yoga training class. I practiced with my teacher during the day and went back to the rented apartment to practice by myself. After persisting for a period of time, I lost seven or eight catties, and my original fat figure has obviously become tall and straight. This made my self-confidence greatly increased, and my impetuous heart became quiet. Two years later, my yoga teacher recommended me to be an instructor because the yoga training class will be opened in another district. After the competition, I was lucky enough to be selected as a yoga instructor.

However, I just gained a foothold in Zhengzhou, Feng Kai failed to start a business, and only got a new job after more than two months, still working as a pastry chef. When we had some savings on hand, with the help of both families, we bought a three-bedroom and one-living house with mortgage loan in the county seat of our hometown. His family paid 60,000 yuan.

“In the past few years, I have indeed gone too slow. Wife, can you wait for me and give me some more time?”

Compared to my yoga instructor, Feng Kai’s job is extremely unstable. Because of fierce competition in the industry, he soon lost his job again. He is frequently unemployed and looking for work, and he can’t save money at all. I basically bear the mortgage and the rent of our rental house. In desperation, Feng Kai went to Beijing alone, hoping that there would be more room for development.

After the separation of the two places, we were busy with each other and did not communicate much. Even so, the limited communication is still dominated by quarrels. I often complained that he did nothing. He blamed me for only complaining, not caring about him or understanding him. Every time we contact us, we will quarrel until we break up.

On the seventh day when I asked Feng Kai to “live his own separate”, he suddenly returned to Zhengzhou from Beijing to see me. It was my birthday that day, and he was carrying an exquisite box with a birthday cake he personally made for me.

A birthday cake with a pink bow and ribbon is placed on the dining table, adding a touch of festive atmosphere to the cabin. We cooked a few more dishes together. After eating, he insisted on washing the dishes, saying that it had been a long time since he fulfilled his duties as a husband. I left him busy, sitting on the sofa and watching TV. After washing the dishes, he sat down next to me, held my hand in his palm, and said after a long silence: “My wife, I know that I am an incompetent husband. I have always wanted to make a career in the past few years, but I have never Become famous. Now I want you to be a woman to pay off the mortgage…” Listening to his words, my heart is mixed, and I don’t know what to say for a while. Seeing that I didn’t speak, he continued: “Actually, I also want to work hard to take care of my family’s financial expenses, such as mortgages, garages, and so on, so that you can live more easily and comfortably, and then we have another baby. “Speaking of this, his eyes were red, and his voice was a little choked: “We are both young.” After a pause, he said: “In recent years, I have indeed walked too slowly, and I know it myself. . Wife, can you wait for me and give me some time?”

Tears burst into my eyes, and I couldn’t help but nodded, and at the same time stretched out my other hand to him. With my hands clasped tightly together, I felt a wonderful power fill my whole body.

That night, Feng Kai told me about his experience after going to Beijing. In order to save rent, he rented a semi-basement, which was relatively humid and far away from the subway entrance. He had to walk three or four stops to work… Then I knew that he was so difficult in Beijing, and for the first time I realized that he was not a competent person. His wife has never really cared about his life since he separated. Every time she called, she either complained to him, or furious and quarreled with him. She never listened to him patiently or asked him how he was doing…

At the beginning, we all entered marriage with a good original intention, but he encountered more bumps and obstacles on the way forward, and he walked a bit slower than me. So, let me slow down for a while, turn around and wait for him. I hope that we can keep in step with each other on the road of marriage as soon as possible.