In the eyes of the Chinese, food is the source of life. Therefore, it is a very heavy friendship to give food to others, and to receive food from others is a great bounty that must be returned. But under normal circumstances, this return is not difficult. You invited me for a meal, I will pay you back. One touch and one touch flattened.
The same is true. Few people have been invited. And often after the invitation is returned, the other party has to ask again in the name of the invitation. Endlessly. As a result, no one owes anyone, or it is unclear who owes anyone. No matter who invited anyone, they all ate together.
What about eating together? It matters. We know that the Chinese eat, whether they are family reunions or entertaining guests, they must be shared by all: all chopsticks reach the same dish; all spoons reach the same bowl of soup. No matter what dish you serve, at least in theory everyone has a share, everyone can and should eat a bite. Like Westerners, ordering different dishes, eating different meals, and even paying their own bills is inexplicable to the Chinese.
Obviously, the most important thing here is “Everyone has a share, everyone eats together”. That is to say, what Chinese people really value is not eating, or not just eating, but eating together. In other words, eat together.
In fact, the significance of having dinner is also here. So-called brothers, aren’t they eating together and eating the same thing? So if we eat the same food together, aren’t we brothers? Therefore, whether you or I are the same ancestors, or whether you or I know each other, as long as we eat together, we have the same source of life, that is, buddies. You must work hard to do what is promised at the table. Promise at the table is no joke, otherwise it is called a promise. Speaking out of words, eating words means swallowing up the things that have been spit out. Others are scornful and disgusting.
Therefore, once the Chinese ask for help, they mostly have to treat guests to dinner. Of course, having dinner is not necessarily a matter of asking for help. It is more about establishing a more intimate relationship. This is because the meaning of having dinner is not “or giving food”, but also “to eat together”, that is, not to “eat people ’s mouth softly”, but to “friend a bowl of rice”. This kind of friendship makes Chinese people’s interpersonal relationships tender and tender.
Of course, you don’t have to treat yourself to dinner, as long as you can get together to eat. When we eat together, we mean something like “together”. So, even if you have a meal or a buffet, you have to get together. For those who have a better relationship, they should also allocate their own dishes to each other or eat them from someone else’s bowl. It is for this reason that Chinese people do not like to divide meals.
Although many people admit that the meal-sharing system is scientific, hygienic, and not wasteful, they also think that the way of eating is too indifferent and impersonal. In short, the purpose of sharing meals is emotional communication, spiritual communication, and blood identity. Therefore, we cannot consider hygiene, and we do not need to care about the body. A lick; deep feelings, dangling needles; emotional iron, stomach bleeding. ” A person with a sense of morality should be able to give his friend two ribs and give his life without blinking his eyes. If you ca n’t even take the risk of getting drunk or getting sick, who would believe that you dare to die for friendship?
The tableware is also exquisite, the most Chinese characteristic of the tableware is chopsticks. Two chopsticks holding a piece of food in itself has the meaning of eating together. Therefore, using chopsticks to serve guests is almost an indispensable etiquette at banquets. It means politeness, but also kindness, meanwhile, it means that the other party is not tightly clamped to prevent falling off. In fact, the earliest Chinese also used knives and forks, just as the Chinese first implemented meal sharing systems. A bone fork unearthed from the cultural heritage site of the Emperor Niangtai Qi of Wuwei, Gansu, is almost the same as the fork used in western food. But chopsticks finally replaced the knife and fork, and food sharing finally replaced meals. Some people say that this is because the table was invented. With the table, you can eat together, instead of putting a few pieces in front of everyone, as you did before. Since everyone is eating on a table, using chopsticks is certainly more convenient than using a knife and fork. The question is, why did we have to eat together when we invented the table? Even if you are surrounded, you can eat your own food like Westerners! To put it bluntly, the Chinese love to eat together.
Obviously, for Chinese people, the taste of food is not only the taste of food, but also the kind of human touch unique to the table. Chinese cuisine reflects this kind of unity, harmony and blending of group consciousness and cultural spirit. Chinese food, whether it is fried, fried, steamed, cooked, burned, grilled, fried, or mixed, is hardly the same as mixing the main ingredients with the ingredients and putting it on the table. It is never like Westerners. Meat is meat, fish is fish. , Salt is salt, pepper and pepper are independent of each other, clearly distinguished. Some famous dishes, such as “Family Portrait”, “Buddha Jumping Wall”, “Farewell My Concubine” and the like, are also a combination of a variety of ingredients, the taste has long been separated from each other. Moreover, according to Chinese culinary science, nutrition science, and dietetics, this kind of “harmony” is conducive to the coordination of yin and yang, and is a very scientific approach.
Of course, it is best that the food itself tastes great and has a strong human touch, and the best way to reflect this dual purpose is probably hot pot. Hotpot is not only a way of cooking, it is also a way of eating; it is not only a way of eating, but also a cultural model. As a way of eating, hot pot can be eaten by multiple people or alone, but there are very few people who eat alone. In hot pot restaurants, it’s hard to see solitary eaters. This is not to save money, but to be boring to eat alone. Generally speaking, Chinese people do not like to eat alone. Eating alone is difficult to get fat, so eating together can absorb nutrients; eating alone is tasteless, and eating together can be extremely enjoyable. If you have to do it yourself, you have to eat with yourself in your imagination: “Toast the moon and invite the moon, and make the three of them.” Otherwise, it is called drunkenness. Drinking boring wine is not only boring, but also hurts you. If you drink it with your friends, then “every acquaintance with one thousand cups is less”, it is okay to drink too much.
That’s what it means to have dinner. It is not only eating and drinking, but also co-eating; co-eating is not only eating together, but also co-eating; co-eating is not only eating together or eating the same food together, but also eating humanity and blood. With mood and blood, groups can be established and consolidated, and individuals can survive. Obviously, Chinese people like to treat guests to dinner, not because the Chinese are delicious, but because of the ideological core of Chinese culture, which is the result of group consciousness.