Happiness is the common pursuit of the world. We all want to get it, but we are often trapped by complicated things. Perhaps happiness itself has nothing to do with fame and fortune, it is just a kind of inner peace and contentment.
After reading this issue of the magazine, 2019 is almost over. Some people say that these years are as fast as speeding cars, making people unable to catch them. 2019 is coming to an end. Now, would you like to do a “happy annual inspection” for the 12-month time train?
Of course, the content is not limited to how much money you make. What we want to check is your “happy harvest”. Take out your pen and pen and ask yourself the following questions:
1. Laughing often?
2. Do you know how to change your mood when you are in a bad mood?
3. Do you know how to appreciate the beautiful things around you?
4. Do you know how to stop comparing with others in time and ask for troubles?
5. Will you feel continuous satisfaction and fulfillment in your heart?
6. Are you optimistic about the future?
7. Are you more grateful than your parents and elders for complaining?
8. Do you have more quarrels with your husband than intimacy?
9. Have you ever had a happy couple traveling romantically (long and short distances are possible)?
10. Is there room for improvement in marriage quality?
11. Did you grow at work this year?
12. Do you use your spare time to help others?
13. Is life adequate for self-discipline this year? Is exercise and diet balanced?
14. Do you actively learn other skills to make your life more colorful?
Write down these 14 indicators one by one, and then do an annual inspection and analysis. If more than half of the answer is “Yes”, congratulations, the happy harvest in 2019 is good; if the answer of “Yes” is less, then you need to take a good inventory and analyze the reasons. You must continue to cheer for the coming year!
Martin Seligman, a master of positive psychology who loves to study human happiness, said: “A person can better grasp happiness only by constantly reviewing his own concept of how to treat happiness and applying it to real life.
It’s like the factors that damage health are hidden in the body, but without physical examination, we can’t detect it. Similarly, sometimes it is difficult for us to realize that some bad habits that affect our perception of happiness are hiding in our cognition, and they will have nowhere to hide if they do an annual examination of happiness.
For example, like complaining, like not reading, they are like junk food. We know their harm, but as time goes by, we will gradually relax our vigilance.
What if I detect bad habits? Martin Seligman emphasized that the consciousness and habits of happiness can be trained, and it is not entirely an inherent ability.
Many people think that people are divided into natural optimism and natural pessimism. In fact, if you pass the conscious “happiness checkup”, most people will develop a strong self-awareness and willingness to change, and then they will start training their ability to perceive happiness and produce a happy lifestyle.
For example, when you realize that you like to complain, and next time the complaint is about to blurt out, you should try to think differently, as taught by the author of the book The Turn of a Mind: This is really the case ? Is it just the story I tell in my head? Could it be that I’m pushing responsibility to others?
For example, train yourself to develop a little habit of feeling happy: see the baby’s eyes more, play with children like a child, and feel their purity and beauty; tease little pets and experience their pure magnetic field; ignite Aromatherapy, read a good book before bed, get a good night’s sleep, and feel good, the world in your eyes will not be dim; naturally, take a walk with your loved ones, even on rainy days; go to the roads that are not often near your home Pick a wild flower home, put it on the windowsill, watch it gradually dry and become golden yellow, and change from agile to eternal. You can feel the power of nature; exercise more, endorphins produced by burning calories are shouting : People who love sports are happier and more shiny than people who don’t love sports!
In the coming 2019, let’s do a “Happy Year Check” together! Find out the happier habits and keep it up; find out the perception of unhappiness and earnestly change. Don’t wait until the negative emotions accumulate like a mountain and fall ill.
Please believe that the ability to feel happiness can be trained, as long as you start from now.