The ugly words are said to be ahead

  I have been trying to fulfill others, but I have forgotten that I should be the most fulfilling.
  My sister wants to buy a car, and she wants to borrow 50,000 yuan from Aqi who earns only 5,000 yuan a month. Aqi is not good to refuse, and she is going to give her money. Every month, Aki had to tighten his belt and live with care. After a year of bitterness, Aki paid off her debts. Unexpectedly, my sister came to her to borrow money to buy a house.
  Aqi said with anger: “If you don’t have money, you have to kill one.” The two sisters had a big fight, and the sister angered and sold the car, and returned the money she had borrowed to Aki. Then, for a long time, my sister didn’t talk to her, but Aki had a sense of liberation that she couldn’t say.
  Are you the same, have been trying to fulfill others, but have forgotten that the most complete is self?
  Moreover, if you clearly have your own thoughts, you will not hurt your feelings in the first place, which will eventually hurt others.
  Sometimes, ugly words are at the head, but it is possible to prevent things from moving in an uncontrollable direction.
  What’s more, you don’t have to put your position too low, don’t want to do things, don’t have to force yourself to do it, just let it go and please, it’s not kindness, but weakness. Within your ability, you can reach out; if you are beyond your ability, you must decisively refuse.
  This is a confirmation of the risk boundary and the responsibility boundary. No one should be wronged to fulfill the desires of others.
  Although many words do not seem to be good to say in advance, they can return our interactions to rationality and eliminate the disappointment and anger brought about by information asymmetry.
  Respecting your feelings does not require much reason. Expressing real thoughts, not “depending on” or “pleasuring”, can make our lives return to the hands of others from the eyes of others.
  Interpersonal relationships, including working relationships, we should also get along with others, and we should not be able to bear the pressure, the grievances that we are unwilling to endure, and the problems we don’t want to face alone. In the future work, some small things caused contradictions.
  Although many words do not seem to be good to say in advance, they can return our interactions to rationality and eliminate the disappointment and anger brought about by information asymmetry.
  Many of the contradictions in our lives are actually caused by not saying ugly words in the front. We care about the feelings of others, do not want to be embarrassed, disappointing, this is certainly a rare virtue, but if you simply obey others, afraid to say your own inner thoughts, it shows that we are too dependent on others’ affirmation and praise.