Ten years ago, I just moved to Amsterdam. I was surprised by the fact that many children who didn’t have children to fly or ride on the playground. Do their parents don’t worry about their children – although they all look strong – what if the inverted green onions fall into the ditch without a fence? For this reason, I often remind those colleagues who have children to pay attention to them – are they not afraid of a thin, ugly guy behind a windmill or a spinning windmill, pull out a big net and take the children away?
After listening to my words, they usually look at me like a Brexit and look at me strangely, and then explain to me that their Dutch parents are really worried that the children raised from childhood are very irritable, too dependent, not to have Pleasant personality. In other words, they expect their children to feel safe and socially confident, and they are doing it all by letting children fly on bicycles without protection facilities, saving time and money. Paying, not to violate the purpose of “happy education”, is really a group of smart and pragmatic parents.
However, the Dutch education concept must not be misunderstood as a pure stocking, and the attitude of the parents is careless. In fact, the Dutch are thoroughly educated in educating their children about the inevitable conflict crisis and smoothing through adolescence. A typical example is that in March this year the Netherlands held a nationwide sex education campaign entitled “The Spring of Tensions”. The policy of the activity is: Any problem related to the body or emotion is a problem that cannot be ignored and is worthy of discussion and solution.
One of the authors of “The happiest child in the world: to educate the way of the Dutch”, American immigrant Lina Mey Acosta told me: “Dutch parents are not obedient to their children, but In dealing with children, there is room for discussion on all issues.” Dutch teens may have sex at the same age as American and British teenagers, but they know how to use their knowledge and methods to protect themselves.
In Dutch schools, identity anxiety is seen as the enemy of education. The education of Dutch teenagers from small to large, including self-confidence training classes, that is, mindfulness training sessions, aims to let them know that no matter where or where, in any aspect, compared with others will not bring benefits – whether it is map The number of fans in the net is still the same as that of the piano class. Calm cooperation, that is, the decision-making policy based on consensus, explains the essentials of Dutch traditional culture. The most representative of this cultural policy is the Dutch history of the Putian culture, which is also a kind of The idea of seeking consensus in different situations.
More importantly, this educational method works very well. Since the UNICEF report in 2013 stated that “Dutch children are the most happy in all developed countries”, this group of children who seem to lack strong competitiveness has taken the lead in life satisfaction evaluation. Very well got 8.4 points.
In contrast, in the United Kingdom, where independence is promoted, the rate of suicide among teenagers has increased by 67% in the past decade. In 2018 alone, about 200 students committed suicide. At the same time, the survey also confirmed that the increasing anxiety and depression in the youth population is directly related to the proliferation of social media.
The concept of life in Dutch culture that pursues a balance between life and work also greatly assists parents in investing more energy in parent-child time, rather than using money to solve or make electronic products a child’s nanny.
Anna Whitehouse, a blogger currently living in London, is called “Puka Mom” and has lived in Amsterdam for 5 years. Now her working model is more similar to the Dutch model: more flexibility and more Easy to care for the family. “When I first arrived in Amsterdam, I initially thought that the Dutch did not have the hard work of our British,” Whitehouse said. “If the work is done at 5 pm, the Dutch will go out of the office at 4:59 and will not work overtime. But then I quickly The change has been realized because the Dutch people attach great importance to family and intimacy. They will not engage in sports activities that are too competitive, nor do they value attendance as much as our British. Therefore, family members have time to sit down and have dinner together. There are plenty of opportunities to talk and communicate with each other. I think this is the reason why Dutch children are happier – they will never be the secret of their parents in the workplace like the children of the UK – they are families and parents. The focus of life.”
I have many friends in England and Ireland, and I noticed that the Dutch social atmosphere is relatively free. I can understand why Dutch children are happier. Everyone in the Netherlands is treated equally, and there is no emphasis on social class and social status. Parents in the Netherlands are relatively less nervous and anxious, so my friends and I used to play in the streets of Amsterdam city centre when we were young, starting at the age of four. Also, because the residents of the same block know each other, it feels very safe, and everyone has the idea that people care and care for each other. Here, there is no awareness of “self-concerning” and “the things of others are not related to me”.
Many schools in the Netherlands follow the “Montessori” education, which advocates giving children more opportunities for free development, and promotes collaboration rather than competition. I personally like this very much. I am not a well-behaved person. If I let me do things according to the requirements of others, I will feel pressure.
My parents are very open-minded and unbelievable. I remember when I saw a poster about AIDS when I was ten years old, I asked my mother. We were sitting in the public bath, and she didn’t feel ashamed to tell me what sex is. My parents’ mentality is also about the topic of wine and drugs: If I openly discuss it openly, my understanding of these two things will be more comprehensive and thorough. The effect of this is obvious, and I will never do anything to take drugs because of rebellion.
My circle of friends is a complex group of people from different races, gay and transgender, and bisexual. My best friend likes same-sex, and another good friend is a transgender. My circle of friends is characterized by differences and differences, but I don’t think we are a particularly strange group. Here, non-gay boys are not embarrassed by the generosity of women, and women are not only praised because of their appearance.
I think our generation is grateful for growing up in the Netherlands. As a native of the Netherlands, I can say that we see freedom above money. I think that being free to do what you want to do is an important factor in determining whether you are happy. We are free to learn everything that interests us at school. For example, some recent events in the US political circles have made me want to know more about the history of the United States, so I am currently learning about it.
Of course, freedom is also extremely dangerous. If you let yourself go and do something that is not constructive, freedom will lose its original meaning, life itself will lose its direction, and you will not be able to get enough happiness and satisfaction. Of course, you can spend your time on self-portraits and online, but can it really bring you happiness? My friends and I also use social media, and the student parade on climate issues that has just ended in The Hague. We all took classes and participated in this event. This activity was originally initiated entirely on social networks. There are thousands of students attending the rally, which are related to the global problem of human survival crisis. How about learning less?
Dutch parents are very pragmatic. They know that their daughters will kiss boys when they attend social gatherings, so they are more concerned about how to let them do it safely. My current friends have grown up together since childhood, and have been playing together since the age of 6. Our relationship is very close, but each of us is an independent individual; our mind and personality are also independent – our girls wear beautiful skirts just to please themselves, not others. Drugs are not an unfathomable topic for us. It is normal for people to talk about its harm on TV or on YouTube. If I eat LSD at home every weekend, my parents will definitely not appreciate it, but they can understand the inherent curiosity of young people of my age, and what they really want to avoid is that they have to be unconscious. Woke up, I dragged the door from the house.
It’s so big, there’s nothing that parents don’t allow and I want to do it. When we communicate with adults, everyone’s thoughts and opinions will be considered and considered. For example, I have already agreed with my parents that if I don’t touch alcohol and drugs before the age of 18, they will pay for my test driver’s license. I am not interested in drugs or fights. Everything I do is to follow my own will and not to do it under outside pressure. I have a friend who has smoked marijuana, others sometimes skip classes, but these have no effect on their reputation.
The difference in sexual orientation is not a big deal here. If I say to my dad that I like boys, he can accept it. If someone in the class announces that they like homosexuality, most of the other students in the class will accept it and will not discriminate or even bully the classmate. I think that even transgender in the Netherlands is not a big deal, because it emphasizes self-confidence and self-affirmation. Some of the junior girls I know are particularly lacking in self-confidence. Now they are in self-confidence training after school, which will help them. I think this is great.
Our progression system is very random, as in the lottery draw, which school the students are promoted depends on which school the number is. Some friends eventually took a school 12 miles away from home, but I think this is the advantage of this system, because then parents have no way to interfere with the whereabouts of their children’s school. Our school also has no uniforms. I can’t imagine the way students wear uniform uniforms. Uniform school uniforms are a very bad idea in my opinion, which makes it impossible for each student to express their personality through the color of clothing – because sometimes you will especially want to wear a certain color!
Emma Petrovich, 16
We are the happiest young people in the world, and I am not surprised at all. When it comes to things that young people like drugs or marijuana might be interested in, Amsterdam is particularly open to its openness and freedom. When I went online, I also made some foreign friends of the same age. Whether these things are legal in their country, they will try their best to try them out of curiosity.
My father is a Serbian. He doesn’t live with us. He does things differently than the average Dutchman. The traditional Dutch tend to believe in the children’s own decisions, because even if they do something wrong, the children will learn the lesson and will eat a long and wise. When I first had a party with my friend at home, we rolled up the carpet and collected valuables. I hope to prove to the parents that we are responsible. The first time, then only Will pay more attention.
Our learning atmosphere at school is that if you are not interested in learning, you can enter a “non-academic circle” that is less focused on achievement and has many projects to accomplish. Moreover, children in the “non-academic circle” will not feel inferior, because after all, people are different, and each brain operates in a different way.
Our school also has a life counseling teacher to encourage everyone to talk to the tutor without any reservations when they encounter difficulties and troubles. For example, if you have problems with your friends, you can take the after-school tutoring class, which can help you build confidence.
Life on social media seems to be colorful and colorful, but the Dutch do not compare themselves to others. I don’t compare my own life with those I see on Instagram. I think it’s quite right to do this, because in most cases, you can’t know what you are seeing is true or false. In addition, whether it is sexy and beautiful can not be related to the praise of others. I have a very beautiful friend. She never uses social media because she doesn’t want to hold a mobile phone all day to compare herself with those models. It’s good to be happy, everything depends on your choice.
As a professional model, young people who have rented an apartment with me come from all over the world, including Lithuania, Argentina, Belarus and the United States, and I can conclude that the life of Dutch young people is the happiest.
I am a child who grew up in a farm. My home is far from the city, but close to nature, so from small to large, the jungle field is my playground. From the age of 11, I have to ride a 9-mile car every day to go to school, and this is the school closest to my home. At first, I was very annoyed because I didn’t have an iPod or other things to relieve my nausea, but soon I met some friends who lived close to my home, so we met at the clock tower every day and went to school together. With friends around, cycling has become less boring, and the jokes and laughter along the way have become my best memories of middle school.
In Dutch, people don’t say “good boy” or “squat girl” because it describes a pet dog. People don’t describe a child like this. Parents have never given me pressure to improve themselves, and I will set myself a goal to make myself better. Parents will support my decision. If you encounter difficulties in your studies, you will learn to adopt a more peaceful and positive attitude. In this respect, it can be said that the Dutch have done quite well. If you feel pressure in your studies, my friends will encourage me to relax and have fun. Here, people don’t feel the competition is fierce, and the pressure is too big to bear.
Recently, I went to Australia to visit my cousin and found that the boys and girls there are different schools, which is quite unimaginable. After I went to middle school, I met some female friends. I can’t understand what it is to isolate people of different genders. At this age, students may start to fall in love and may have a relationship, but it is about personal choice. It doesn’t matter if you have had sexual experience. In the Netherlands, you won’t be laughed at because you are still a virgin or a virgin.