“Have you ever thought about how many words we have said in a lifetime? According to statisticians, a normal person’s words will be recorded in 20 B5 papers a day, accumulated in such a volume, and can be written in one month. Six hundred-page books have 72 books in one year. If the life expectancy is seventy years old, a total of five thousand and forty-one books of one hundred pages are spoken.”
After listening to such data, the students exclaimed in unison: “Wow! So many books are enough to open a small library.”
“Yes!” I said.
“But how many valuable books are there in this library?”
This is an interesting question. I saw that every child frowned and thought about its answer very seriously.
What we say every day can be roughly divided into three categories:
First, good words. Such as comfort words, wisdom words, can boost people’s hearts, give advice and so on.
Second, entertainment. “The weather is really good today.” “Good morning, have you had enough?” There is no good difference between polite greetings or work conversations.
Third, evil words. Talk about people’s privacy, pass on some gossip, complain about this, criticize that, usually take others as a topic.
What is the highest frequency of our words? Many people can’t say a word in the end, making a lot of language garbage without knowing it. We should teach our children to learn to speak from a young age. At the right time, at a suitable place, and to say what they say, the “three pairs” are connected in a line, which is the highest style of mouth.
First, the right time. Many children only know that they want to talk and talk, they don’t know how to respect others, they don’t know enough in class, they also say in class, they have to wait in line, and they don’t even walk. When a mouth doesn’t seem to be free, Dong Laxi is annoying. The common saying is: “Silence is gold”, knowing how to close your mouth when appropriate is actually a manifestation of wisdom!
A young man came to worship the Greek philosopher Socrates as a teacher. When he saw Socrates coming in, he immediately introduced himself, from his illustrious family to his ambitions. stop. Socrates saw that he didn’t stop, and he reached out and grabbed his mouth and said, “I have to pay you twice the tuition.”
The young man was surprised to ask: “Why?”
Socrates said to him: “Because I have to teach you two homework, I must first teach you how to hold your tongue and teach you how to speak.”
Second, a suitable location. Lively occasions may fall to the bottom due to a joke; the festive atmosphere is often frozen in an instant due to improper words. Add a few words, such as the beads, in the place where you need them, and master the situation to develop in a good direction. This is the highest state of language art!
A pianist was invited to perform in a certain city in the United States. When he appeared on the scene, he found that the audience was sparse, less than 50% of the audience. Of course he was very disappointed, but he went to the front of the stage and said to the audience: “The people in your city must be very rich. I saw that you all bought tickets for two or three seats.” The whole audience listened to haha. Laughing, it was a night full of music and laughter, and the next day there was a very high evaluation in the media. Think about it, how amazing it is to be intimate! Like a magic wand in the hands of an angel.
Third, say what to say. The scars of the body are easy to cure, and the resentment in the heart is difficult to understand. Many people have difficulty in repelling the linguistic damage. Many people are willing to criticize, but they don’t know that words are like knives, sentences are like swords, rumors are often distorted, and they hurt people at once, so use three sieves to filter before you speak!
The first sieve is called real. If it’s just a hearsay or everyone says so, stop talking! The second sieve is to know if it is good or not. If the speaker is not correct and loves to chew on the tongue, then there is no need to say it is necessary. The third sieve check to see if this is really important. The street talks about idle people to pass the time, such content can be avoided. If one thing is not important, it is not from goodwill, and it is not true whether it is true or false. Why should we spread it for it?
“I don’t know what to do, be cautious. If you don’t happen, don’t talk nonsense; don’t do anything that you can’t do; don’t talk about it. If you hurt something, you can’t say it.” There is something to say, be careful, be willing to be used for a lifetime. Not enough.