” laissez-faire” mistake

London is the most crowded city in the world, and cars can only move forward in line at rush hour. In the most congested streets, the speed is even below 12 mph. In 2003, London’s driving speed continued to decline to 8.69 mph, with an average of 2.3 minutes to wait for every kilometer traveled. Faced with this situation, the government issued a call to people to reduce private car travel and take buses. Although the situation has improved, it is still crowded.

In 2003, the London government adopted a proposal to charge congestion fees for motor vehicles. On or before that day, each car will cost 8 pounds, and on the following day, each car will cost 10 pounds. Owners who do not pay congestion charges within two days will receive a fine of 100 pounds. At first, the congestion in London streets improved, but with the passage of time, the congestion rebounded. Soon congestion was maximized. London can only travel at speeds below 8 miles per hour, with an average waiting time of 2.7 minutes per kilometer.

Why is this? It turns out that before the congestion charge was charged, many private car owners felt that the congestion in the city also had their own responsibilities and unconsciously created a ” guilty feeling”, thus intentionally or unintentionally reducing the driving time. However, when they paid 8 pounds for congestion, they thought they had paid the price for ” mistakes” and had no ” guilt” when driving.

It’s no coincidence. A kindergarten in the United States requires parents to pick up their children on time every day. However, a few parents are late almost every day. In this case, the kindergarten came up with a solution, that is, parents have to pay $ 5 each time they are late.

Kindergarten originally wanted to use this method to prevent parents from being late. But the fact was unexpected. Since the implementation of the ” five dollars” method, the number of late parents has increased rather than decreased. This makes kindergarten not understand. Later, after investigation, finally know the answer. The reason lies in this ” five dollars”. When not paying $ 5, many parents blame themselves and feel guilty for being late. However, after paying $ 5, their guilt was relieved or even disappeared, believing that they had paid the price for their mistakes and should not be blamed again.

Yes, most of the time, we always want to make each other pay for mistakes made by others. But this is often not the best way.

Sometimes, the best way is to tolerate or even ” indulge” his mistakes. Only in this way can he feel guilty and remember this mistake for a long time and never make the same mistake.